Ode to the uncertainty of love

I think I am falling in love with you,

And I guess that’s okay.

Slowly and steadily!

I tell myself, "Be cool;

Be strong, be brave and be detached!"

And then I can taste your lips on mine;

The way you eagerly explore my mouth,

The way you bite my lower lip,

The exhilaration in the pain;

And I feel myself fall,

Slowly, watching the blue sky open up over me,

Bathed in the rays of the bursting dawn,

As I fall through pearly white, cottony clouds

And float towards the world.

I think I really like you,

I don't want to, but I guess that’s okay.

I wait for you to text me,

And I worry when you don’t,

Fretting and huffing and puffing,

Wowing to hate you,

And to forget you,

To erase your very existence,

From the landscape of my mind.

And then you say hi,

And I can see your smile,

Warm and guileless,

Innocent like a day old child,

And the dimples that crease your cheeks,

And the way your eyes light up,

And I have already forgiven you

I think I want you,

It's hard to admit but it's okay.

I want to be hard as nails,

Defensive, like I have taught myself to be,

Immune to emotions and pain,

Apathetic and indifferent.

Cold when couples come together at the lips,

And join themselves at their souls.

Cold, as cold as New York on a January morning.

And then I remember the touch of your fingers,

The way they linger,

On the naked skin of my back,

Your lips on my neck,

Setting me on fire,

Your kindness and your urgency,

Your patience and your passion,

The way you said my name,

The way you held my hand,

The way you chained me to your bed, by your side

The weight of your body on mine,

And the comfort of your arms around me,

And the walls of ice I built,

Melt away.

I think I want us to be together,

It’s a long shot, but wishing it, is okay!

I know we live on two ends of this island,

Seems like two ends of the world on gray days and textless hours.

It will be hard,

It might be excruciating,

What with me and my baggage

And you and your past.

But mostly me and my baggage.

But when I think of holding hands,

Walking through the fall leaves in Central Park,

Arms entwined,

Kissing on the terrace of the MET,

Walking through the West village,

Sharing a hot chocolate at Serendipity

Or in my apartment,

Curling up in your soft blanket,

Watching Netflix on your laptop, naked,

It seems worth it.

I don’t know if we are meant to be,

If this is really a thing,

Or just a flash in the pan,

A one night stand,

A blip on my stream of random "romantic" rendezvous!

I don't know if we are going to grow old together,

Live in a ramshackle apartment together,

Or even go out on a date together,

But then I think of you,

And not knowing seems okay.

Taking a chance seems okay.

Deciding to trust seems okay.

Who knows?

Maybe we will be okay!

Night by the ocean

I like where we are,
Under the jasmine tree,
With the smell of the ocean,
Mingling with the sweet scent of the white blossoms.

I am nestled in your arms,
Your warm breath on my neck,
Your fingers playing,
With my hair and the thin cords of my white dress.

Gentle are your kisses
And your words are music.
Lost in the scent of jasmine
And the ocean and my night black hair, we linger,

In the silver moonlight,
Until the first rays of the sun.

The unbearable lightness of normalcy

Lana del Rey has released a new song. I am delighted! It is vintage Lana, with her soft crooning, infused with the sultry richness of her voice that just seems to ooze honey and sex but also with strong tones of crushing sorrow and loneliness. She is my favorite alter ego.

She also reminds me strongly of what I am not.

Living in Ithaca, every waking day can be rich literary fodder. From the merciless nights in February, when the world seems deceptively warm as streetlights bounce of the drifts of white snow, despite being as cold as death, to the summer, stifling humidity followed by rain, grey skies, winds whistling through the leaves, chilling to the bone. It is quiet. Silence is often broken only by the rustling of leaves or the gushing of waterfalls that cut through the gorges. Like my trip to Istanbul, I was sure that the words would well up in my mind, in my eyes, and fall off my tongue. Silvertongue, they would call me. Just like Istanbul, I was sorely disappointed. Where I was sure that this was going to be a period of literary fecundity, I was left staring, a year later, at a torrent of clear, cool water that poured from the skies, shivering in the middle of July, waiting for the words to come, waiting for my moments of genius; for that life-affirming spark that would rage into a passionate fire, that would make me capable of painting pictures with words for the rest of my life.

Sometimes, I wonder if the desire to become a writer stemmed from a deeper insecurity within me, fueled by low self esteem. In my younger days, I would write verses, short and long, on very similar themes- loss, loneliness, death, decay, the utter pointlessness of existence! It was indeed quite enjoyable to entertain the notion that these verses would someday amount to something, even a Pulitzer Prize. I wonder if that was a salve for the pain that arose from the anger of not being a genius or an innovator. Perhaps, it was something to aspire for, when I had no clear direction of where I was going or what I wanted from life. It is easier to get through the mundanity of each day, when one believes that there is an ultimate goal, an ultimate destination to a very repetitive journey. But what if life is, like science predicts and the nihilists assert, inherently pointless? A cosmic accident, an insignificant existence in a sea of galaxies, suns, dying stars, in an ever-expanding random universe!

Sometimes I feel that my literary shortcomings stem from how normal my life is. Surely, in order to write something powerful, the author must have a series of experiences that range from tense excitement to inconsolable grief. All award winning novels are products of profound life experiences- wars, death, interment, personal tragedies. I wonder if my disability to produce good literature stems from the normalcy and relative comfort of my life. Simply put, I have nothing to write about.

The insidiousness of normalcy recently manifested in my life, as a recent crib fest where I proclaimed that I wish I had acknowledged and come to terms with my eventual reality, four years earlier: that instead of wanting to be a rebel, an angel of excess and decadence, I wish I had accepted that graduate studies in the States, a job with computers, a husband from my own community, a house with a white picket fence, nerdy kids and dogs would be my ultimately reality! I would have prepared myself for this. I should have spent more time learning to code than dream of the day I would become an iconic, female Hank Moody. My upper middle class past would become my upper middle class present and future!

Alas, now it is too late, as things mostly are for people who dwell on their pasts. As the years inch by and I see ten grey hair in place of one, I wonder where all this is headed. I wonder if I should strive to make my new dream come true- to wake up at 7:00AM sharp tomorrow with a smile on my face, apply to three jobs, start my online machine learning course, read about Java and Python, go the gym, eat healthy, watch an episode of Seinfeld and go to sleep. Or should I continue being who I am: a self-hating yet narcissistic, insecure girl in a state of flux, with an aspiration to be an extraordinary writer and a vehicle for change on one hand, and trying to face reality on the other. Will I eventually accept that being normal, and hence unremarkable, is my reality? And even if I do, is it really so bad after all? 

Ponderance

If I die today, who will pay back my loans?

Imagine

(Dated 12/07/2014)

Imagine a world where you don’t need money to survive: where people are kind and they smile at you and say good morning like they really feel it; a world where a man smiles at a woman with genuine good will rather than imagining what lies beneath her clothes. Imagine a world without passports and borders and jobs and responsibilities, where you can just pack your bag and walk out. Imagine everything that John Lennon told you to imagine. Now open your eyes.

You are looking at a screen, reading the thoughts of a person you may or may not know and most likely do not care about. You pause thinking, “this is depressing” and retire to your phone for five minutes, checking out random peoples’ engagement photos on Facebook and blasting pixel jellies out of the way. Maybe, you play a round of Quiz Up and bask in the glory of defeating someone you don’t know in something that NOBODY, including you, cares about. But you like to win, don’t you. You like the rush of being number one and having people look up to you as number one, don’t you. You like feeling important and popular even if it is for a minute don’t you? You get back to this blog post and immediately switch to Facebook on your laptop. Pictures of cute kittens, videos of babies getting massages, NSFW pictures of some model on some beach on some mind-numbingly stupid gossip rag. You go to sleep. You wake up four hours later and first things first you check your phone, to see who has messaged you.

I want to modify John Lennon’s message for our generation. Someday, soon, I want to wake up in the morning with a smile on my face, grab a backup with only two t shirts and a pair of jeans, an anorak and some cash, some books and walk out of my house, without my phone or my laptop. I want to buy a road atlas, and drive a car across America, catch a plane to Tokyo, navigate the crazy beautiful city with simple tourist-guide paper backs in English. After that I want to move, by car, by bus, by train. Hitchhiking, illegal car shares and selling my books for money for the next air ticket. Maybe I’ll consider sleeping with a man for a couple thousand dollars. Maybe I will reconsider. In any case, I will make my way to Bangkok and party all night, for a week. And when I run out of money, I will bus tables, or lead English tours to make some more.

I want to climb mountains. I want to take a dip in every ocean of the world, including the frigid arctic waters. I want to boat across rivers; white water rafting, with my heart in mouth and in those woven little boats, languidly floating across a sprawling tropical river, swatting mosquitoes with my hat. I want to visit villages and relish the fact that there are people who survive without cell phones, and laptops, and TV and expensive alcohol, and high heeled shoes, and mad urge to compete with and destroy any peer who threatens your self-worth. I want to wade knee deep into paddy fields in Laos or Cambodia or South India, and tend to the grains that grow from the soil, to sustain us. Plants, birds, animals and less fortunate human beings: all being born apparently for only one purpose, to serve those who can afford them. I want to sit on the shores of white, sandy beaches, watching the orange sun set slowly out of view, with a paper cup full of wine and no shoes. Nowhere to go, no deadlines, no Tinder, no impressing people. No need of a companion or investments or housing or higher education.

And finally when I am tired and I am all out of money and resources, when my bones grow old, and my mind can’t take it anymore, maybe I will climb one last mountain, watch one last sunset and ride one last ride to the bottom. I will not be confined by decay or disease, by hospitals or ungrateful progeny. I will fade along with the sun and I will go back to the soil I came from.

I wonder and I bet you wonder too, that why does inspiration only strike at four thirty in the morning. Maybe because you are as sick of it all as I am. Maybe because you are as scared as I am about facing reality that we absolutely have no choice to do what I dream of. Not you and not I. And it is fucking scary to think about finding happiness when everything about the world is wrong. But maybe you will go down without a fight, (paraphrasing a good friend), but I won’t. I will fight to keep my dream alive. I will strive to remain unhappy, dissatisfied, vulnerable and masochistic, because it keeps my dream alive: my dream to escape, my dream to not conform and my dream to escape from the daily reminders that I am useless until I prove otherwise. Yes, I will fight to remain unhappy because someday I want to be brave enough to give it all up and run away. Someday, I will run away and none of you will ever find me. 

Ode to the human condition during early winter

Pitter patter pitter patter
The sound of raindrops gently peppering the wooden roofs
Cold, so cold
Like angels' tears that froze.

Rain dots the bleak landscape,
The last, sparse patches of green,
Living their final days,
Yearning for light and glory,
But shrouded in grey,
Before the whiteness takes all.

Just a month ago,
The world was set ablaze,
In a riot of colours and hues.
A tribute to life,
An effort to be vibrant till the very end.

The bare branches stand silent now.
Sentient beings, going back to ancient sleep as powder falls from the heavens.
Sleep, sleep, sleep oh children of the great mother,
Sleep till it's time to live again.

But alas, we the race of thinkers,
Of ponderers, of philosophers,
Of narcissists who think we are better than life itself!
For us there is no sleep,
Only a wait, a long wait,
For the whiteness to fade and the colours to come back.

Ennui

So, what do you call someone with questionable dreams, no marketable skills and no ambition? what do you call a serial procrastinator who dreams of things that are impossible because the possible is  too difficult to achieve? What do you call a person who is so unsure of themselves that they are convinced that their whole life is a series of accidents- both serendipitous and devastating? How do you convince this person that they are worth something, that their presence has meaning, that their existence is not an accident? How to you convince this person that some activities are worth losing sleep for, some people are worth giving up unhealthy food for and some things are worth fighting for, dying for? How do you validate this person's life?


You don't!