Arguments are never pleasant but they make you think. Today I had an argument about love and acceptance. I came to realize a few things: a. Count your blessings! b. Regardless of how they think and how they behave, a loved one is always special. c. People are what they are because of how they think. So all you can do is show them how you feel; whether they can change or not depends only on how what you say affects how they think.
There are people in this world who feel unloved and worthless, despite the fact that there are so many people who love them. The point is that they don't get the love/admiration/respect from the person or people they aim to please, so they stay blind to the rest, who love them unconditionally. Thats the first blessing one should count: To love and be loved unconditionally, regardless of the flaws, regardless of the mistakes made because unconditional love takes immense strength and even more courage. So, to those people who think "nobody loves me" or "nobody acknowledges/cares/respects me", take another look around and see the faces of people in your life who will give up their life for you. It could be parents who untiringly and patiently strive for the well being of their child, putting up with temper tantrums, mood swings and all the crap that the kid throws at their face. It could be a sibling who stands back and watches their brother or sister each day, sincerely hoping for their well being without interfering so that they can make a life of their own. It could be that girlfriend who spends her time thinking of ways to surprise her boyfriend or ways to comfort him when he's sad... or vice versa. It could be that friend who always has your back, even if he or she is sitting half way across the world. The point is, love is a complex emotion with a lot of pressure attached to it. Therefore, to receive the pure love of another human is something every person needs to be thankful for.
To talk about love is to talk about happiness, sorrow, joy and anger because love is nothing but a stew of unbalanced, over emphasized emotions. Anger is a major and powerful part of love because anger alone has the power to break everything that love builds up over time. But, anger is also short lived and hence needs to be forgiven. People say a lot of things in anger. Most of it they dont mean, but most of it they subconsciously feel deep down. Whether its jealousy, insecurity, arrogance or whatever that makes someone feel what they feel, it always comes out as anger. And it almost always comes out on people they never want to intentionally hurt. This is always followed by regret. So, here's where forgiveness comes into the picture. If anger is married to love, then forgiveness is married to anger. Words said in fury deserve forgiveness. Spite, however, is a different story (about which I dont want to talk about now). Anyway, the capacity to forgive is a sign of capacity to love and hence is a blessing. Forgiveness, both given and received is a blessing one should count. Anger is stupid and unintentional but forgiveness is beautiful and kind and it soothes that anger. On this note, I want to say sorry to anyone I have hurt by my anger and also forgive those who have hurt me because I want to count my blessings today. I am so lucky to be surrounded by so much love, enough to experience anger!
Life is a like a pack of Bertie Botts all flavor beans. Try as you may to plan out everything, you may still get an earwax flavored bean. The only thing you can do is hope the next one is strawberry cheesecake. Count your blessings! Each and everyday! Every time you feel like quitting, every time you hate your life, every time you feel alone and unloved, every time you feel like everything is going against you or you have nothing to look forward to, every time you feel unrewarded or taken for granted, try to count your blessings and look around at the things you have- health, family, love, friends, life, art, music... Its hard to stay positive, especially when the odds are against you, but just because the lights go out doesn't mean that things stop existing. Love yourself and love the people who love you and draw strength out of that love. Every time you feel like your going to lose or fall down, open your bag of blessing and grab the first thing there: Could be a phone call to your mom or a photo of your first love. Just remember that there is always something in that bag of blessings for everyone! You just got to reach for it and keep moving!
There are people in this world who feel unloved and worthless, despite the fact that there are so many people who love them. The point is that they don't get the love/admiration/respect from the person or people they aim to please, so they stay blind to the rest, who love them unconditionally. Thats the first blessing one should count: To love and be loved unconditionally, regardless of the flaws, regardless of the mistakes made because unconditional love takes immense strength and even more courage. So, to those people who think "nobody loves me" or "nobody acknowledges/cares/respects me", take another look around and see the faces of people in your life who will give up their life for you. It could be parents who untiringly and patiently strive for the well being of their child, putting up with temper tantrums, mood swings and all the crap that the kid throws at their face. It could be a sibling who stands back and watches their brother or sister each day, sincerely hoping for their well being without interfering so that they can make a life of their own. It could be that girlfriend who spends her time thinking of ways to surprise her boyfriend or ways to comfort him when he's sad... or vice versa. It could be that friend who always has your back, even if he or she is sitting half way across the world. The point is, love is a complex emotion with a lot of pressure attached to it. Therefore, to receive the pure love of another human is something every person needs to be thankful for.
To talk about love is to talk about happiness, sorrow, joy and anger because love is nothing but a stew of unbalanced, over emphasized emotions. Anger is a major and powerful part of love because anger alone has the power to break everything that love builds up over time. But, anger is also short lived and hence needs to be forgiven. People say a lot of things in anger. Most of it they dont mean, but most of it they subconsciously feel deep down. Whether its jealousy, insecurity, arrogance or whatever that makes someone feel what they feel, it always comes out as anger. And it almost always comes out on people they never want to intentionally hurt. This is always followed by regret. So, here's where forgiveness comes into the picture. If anger is married to love, then forgiveness is married to anger. Words said in fury deserve forgiveness. Spite, however, is a different story (about which I dont want to talk about now). Anyway, the capacity to forgive is a sign of capacity to love and hence is a blessing. Forgiveness, both given and received is a blessing one should count. Anger is stupid and unintentional but forgiveness is beautiful and kind and it soothes that anger. On this note, I want to say sorry to anyone I have hurt by my anger and also forgive those who have hurt me because I want to count my blessings today. I am so lucky to be surrounded by so much love, enough to experience anger!
Life is a like a pack of Bertie Botts all flavor beans. Try as you may to plan out everything, you may still get an earwax flavored bean. The only thing you can do is hope the next one is strawberry cheesecake. Count your blessings! Each and everyday! Every time you feel like quitting, every time you hate your life, every time you feel alone and unloved, every time you feel like everything is going against you or you have nothing to look forward to, every time you feel unrewarded or taken for granted, try to count your blessings and look around at the things you have- health, family, love, friends, life, art, music... Its hard to stay positive, especially when the odds are against you, but just because the lights go out doesn't mean that things stop existing. Love yourself and love the people who love you and draw strength out of that love. Every time you feel like your going to lose or fall down, open your bag of blessing and grab the first thing there: Could be a phone call to your mom or a photo of your first love. Just remember that there is always something in that bag of blessings for everyone! You just got to reach for it and keep moving!
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